Wednesday, November 18, 2009

10 Step Plan for Sustained Success in Times of Change

1. Clearly identify the change(s) affecting you.

2. Just Ask !

3. Surround yourself with supportive people.

4. Don't dwell on mistakes.

5. Take charge of change.

6. Own, don't lease your goals.

7.Go after what you really want, not what's easiest or convenient.

8. Follow your passion and fulfill your purpose to find peace.

9. Turn your fears into power.

10. Aim, focus, action!

6 Step Marshmallow Plan to Sweet Success in Anything - and Everything!

1. What do you need to change ?

What are you doing now that is helping you in your life ? What will you commit to changing ?

2. What are your strengths and weaknesses ?

What do you need to improve and how can you best make these improvements ?

3. What are your major goals ?

Pick at least five and write down. They must be measurable and have a deadline. If you can't see a goal, you can't achieve it.

4. What is your plan ?

How are you going to achieve your goals ? What strategies do you have to implement right now to stop eating your marshmallows ( instant/short term benefit/reward )?

5. What are you going to do to put your plan into action ?

What will you commit today, tomorrow, next week, next year to help you reach your goals ?

6. Persevere

Don't give up. If you fall down seven times, get up eight. The marshmallow principle ( theory of delayed gratification ) works. Enjoy the challenge as well as the rewards of delayed gratification.

Sunday, November 08, 2009

7 reasons you might fail to become the best in the world

1. You run out of time ( and quit )
2. You run out of money ( and quit )
3. You get scared ( and quit )
4. You're not serious about it ( and quit )
5. You lose interest or enthusiasm or settle for being mediocre ( and quit )
6. You focus on the short term instead of the long ( and quit when the short term gets too hard )
7. You pick the wrong thing at which to be the best in the world ( because you don't have the talent )

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

I deserve more ?

Never take advantage of someone. never take someone for a ride. It isn't appropriate. People aren't oblige to give you what you want. You deserve what you are worth, you get what you give. Before you demand for something, ask yourself this : are you worthy enough to have it ?

I realised that many people doesn't appreciate what they have. They always think that they deserve better and will demand for more. Well, it's not wrong to demand for a better living. However, one must be contended with what they have. For example, a lot of people always demand for higher pay. Little do they know that they aren't capable of handling workloads and simple tasks given to them. Some can't even speak proper english. I am not saying that my command of english is good. But I am sure that I am capable of writing a proposal which can be easily understood by others and able to hold conversations with others.

Imagine this, a engineering/logistic/business degree holder in Malaysia who can't even construct a simple sentence in English demands for a promotion and an increment of RM 500 when he has only been working for 5 months. No sign of initiative to take extra courses to improve his skills. Is this too much ? or some people doesn't know where they stand?

People! if you want to demand for something, please look at yourself. Are you worthy enough to get this ? If no, improve yourself and work harder! People can see your performance and improvements. They are not blind. Don't always ask what you can have, instead ask what you can give. In this current market, don't ever think that you are a degree holder means you smarter than others who are not a degree holder. NO WAY! There is something call experience and knowledge which can only be learned on the street. Be humble and learn as much as you possibly can. Whatever it is, it will come to you when the time and attitude is right!

Monday, September 07, 2009


In many situations, confidence play an important role. Sometimes what differentiate success and failure is confidence. Of course, it can be acted out, only by professionals in such areas. However, it can easily be spotted by anyone if there isn't confidence in that someone.

I, myself has very low self confidence. Especially when socializing with people I may not know and who are older and more knowledgeable. Hence, I would be very quiet. My instinct was to sit quietly to avoid being laughed at. Moreover, I would also listen carefully to what they have to say to gather information and knowledge, observe the situation to make suitable conversations. However, when I am with my close buddies, I would be the one who is talking non stop. I would love to be the center of attention. This would be a skill that I need to polish by the end of the year. for my own good.

When it comes to singing and dancing, I love the both of it ! just that the confidence level inside me is so low that I don't think I have even let anyone see me dancing! Singing perhaps only a few people. I had a dream of performing on stage - singing and WOW the crowd with my singing. And go to clubs and dance till the spotlight shines on me !

Confidence... This is what I have when it comes to things that I am very sure of, things that I know. Give me strength. I am in the process of gaining such confidence in every single area to outshine others and grab that opportunity before it fades.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

A day to remember...

When it's not about sex, money and materials but his companionship, personality and attitude, you're in love...

it has been a memorable day for me. The day I met with that someone. Couldnt sleep the night before cause of the excitement. Have to rely on caffeine to keep me awake, which cause troubles later as I cant really take caffeine, but it's worth it XD. Time flies... especially its happy time. I enjoyed the chat we had. Taught me lots of things. And most importantly, that someone swept me off my feet :P skipped lunch ( which i paid a huge price later that day ) to catch up on time but then, shit happens when you least expect it :(

got that someone a birthday gift. just merely a birthday gift. however, according to a close friend of mine. 'the gift means you care, you want that someone to think that you're caring and sensitive, you want that someone to think of you, you want that someone to remember you, you want that someone to come back and sweep you away...'

true it may seems... Its one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Thank God for giving me such a day and experience. I feel alive again ^.^

Monday, June 29, 2009



Analysis Paralysis

I like to analyse things and humans. I like to look at their gestures, behaviours etc. and analyse it. From certain gestures, behaviours, tone of speech and ways of speech, you can know what is in their mind or what are they feeling or their occupation, origins etc. It is very fun though :P It helps me a lot in daily life. However, it also brings harm to me.

Having said that, a friend introduced this term to me, Analysis Paralysis. It is a syndrome that shows too much of analysis will lead to uncertainties and afraid to accept or make decisions. Sometimes I do feel so. I believe in horoscopes. And because I analyse very much about human behaviour ( ppl around me ), I tend to agree to most of the personalities for each horoscopes. Of course, there are exceptions.

So, when I get to know new people or talk with them, I tend to 'analyse' their speech / gesture. I guess most people do so too. Then till certain stage, I would ask their horoscope or find it out myself through ways :P then I would go ' No Wonder ! ' or ' Damn! ' There are certain horoscopes which I need to beware of, not to say get away from them. Just be caution. There are exceptional cases though. And of course, those horoscopes that match me very well, Leos, Saggitauras, Aries and Libras. I do not know if I have set such mindset unconsciously, but I always find that people with such horoscopes tend to get along pretty well with me.

Once in a while, someone with such horoscopes will pop into my life and amazed me. But then, I tend to have this analysis paralysis syndrome. My friends always say ' Go! Take action and get to know people before its too late ! ' , but I always hold back. I always think, How could such a great Piece of Art pop into my life? I am no match for this. I am just nobody...... *negative thoughts* Haiz.... Or sometimes I might scared people away ! lol...

Sunday, June 28, 2009



她不是擅长说笑话,而是出瞅。还记得她在餐厅的时候对侍应说“1 Hot Iced Lemon Tea and 1 Cold Iced Lemon Tea! ” 当时那侍应愣了一下......我立刻说道“你叫什么?要的是1 Hot Lemon Tea and 1 Iced Lemon Tea吧?!” 说完了,我笑得我肚子又痛,眼泪都要出来了!看到你那很想找个洞钻进去的样子,我更是忍不住大笑了起来!



Wednesday, June 24, 2009



Monday, June 22, 2009





Sunday, June 21, 2009