10 Step Plan for Sustained Success in Times of Change

1. Clearly identify the change(s) affecting you.

2. Just Ask !

3. Surround yourself with supportive people.

4. Don't dwell on mistakes.

5. Take charge of change.

6. Own, don't lease your goals.

7.Go after what you really want, not what's easiest or convenient.

8. Follow your passion and fulfill your purpose to find peace.

9. Turn your fears into power.

10. Aim, focus, action!

6 Step Marshmallow Plan to Sweet Success in Anything - and Everything!

1. What do you need to change ?

What are you doing now that is helping you in your life ? What will you commit to changing ?

2. What are your strengths and weaknesses ?

What do you need to improve and how can you best make these improvements ?

3. What are your major goals ?

Pick at least five and write down. They must be measurable and have a deadline. If you can't see a goal, you can't achieve it.

4. What is your plan ?

How are you going to achieve your goals ? What strategies do you have to implement right now to stop eating your marshmallows ( instant/short term benefit/reward )?

5. What are you going to do to put your plan into action ?

What will you commit today, tomorrow, next week, next year to help you reach your goals ?

6. Persevere

Don't give up. If you fall down seven times, get up eight. The marshmallow principle ( theory of delayed gratification ) works. Enjoy the challenge as well as the rewards of delayed gratification.

7 reasons you might fail to become the best in the world

1. You run out of time ( and quit )
2. You run out of money ( and quit )
3. You get scared ( and quit )
4. You're not serious about it ( and quit )
5. You lose interest or enthusiasm or settle for being mediocre ( and quit )
6. You focus on the short term instead of the long ( and quit when the short term gets too hard )
7. You pick the wrong thing at which to be the best in the world ( because you don't have the talent )

I deserve more ?

Never take advantage of someone. never take someone for a ride. It isn't appropriate. People aren't oblige to give you what you want. You deserve what you are worth, you get what you give. Before you demand for something, ask yourself this : are you worthy enough to have it ?

I realised that many people doesn't appreciate what they have. They always think that they deserve better and will demand for more. Well, it's not wrong to demand for a better living. However, one must be contended with what they have. For example, a lot of people always demand for higher pay. Little do they know that they aren't capable of handling workloads and simple tasks given to them. Some can't even speak proper english. I am not saying that my command of english is good. But I am sure that I am capable of writing a proposal which can be easily understood by others and able to hold conversations with others.

Imagine this, a engineering/logistic/business degree holder in Malaysia who can't even construct a simple sentence in English demands for a promotion and an increment of RM 500 when he has only been working for 5 months. No sign of initiative to take extra courses to improve his skills. Is this too much ? or some people doesn't know where they stand?

People! if you want to demand for something, please look at yourself. Are you worthy enough to get this ? If no, improve yourself and work harder! People can see your performance and improvements. They are not blind. Don't always ask what you can have, instead ask what you can give. In this current market, don't ever think that you are a degree holder means you smarter than others who are not a degree holder. NO WAY! There is something call experience and knowledge which can only be learned on the street. Be humble and learn as much as you possibly can. Whatever it is, it will come to you when the time and attitude is right!

Confidence

In many situations, confidence play an important role. Sometimes what differentiate success and failure is confidence. Of course, it can be acted out, only by professionals in such areas. However, it can easily be spotted by anyone if there isn't confidence in that someone.

I, myself has very low self confidence. Especially when socializing with people I may not know and who are older and more knowledgeable. Hence, I would be very quiet. My instinct was to sit quietly to avoid being laughed at. Moreover, I would also listen carefully to what they have to say to gather information and knowledge, observe the situation to make suitable conversations. However, when I am with my close buddies, I would be the one who is talking non stop. I would love to be the center of attention. This would be a skill that I need to polish by the end of the year. for my own good.

When it comes to singing and dancing, I love the both of it ! just that the confidence level inside me is so low that I don't think I have even let anyone see me dancing! Singing perhaps only a few people. I had a dream of performing on stage - singing and WOW the crowd with my singing. And go to clubs and dance till the spotlight shines on me !

Confidence... This is what I have when it comes to things that I am very sure of, things that I know. Give me strength. I am in the process of gaining such confidence in every single area to outshine others and grab that opportunity before it fades.

A day to remember...

When it's not about sex, money and materials but his companionship, personality and attitude, you're in love...

it has been a memorable day for me. The day I met with that someone. Couldnt sleep the night before cause of the excitement. Have to rely on caffeine to keep me awake, which cause troubles later as I cant really take caffeine, but it's worth it XD. Time flies... especially its happy time. I enjoyed the chat we had. Taught me lots of things. And most importantly, that someone swept me off my feet :P skipped lunch ( which i paid a huge price later that day ) to catch up on time but then, shit happens when you least expect it :(

got that someone a birthday gift. just merely a birthday gift. however, according to a close friend of mine. 'the gift means you care, you want that someone to think that you're caring and sensitive, you want that someone to think of you, you want that someone to remember you, you want that someone to come back and sweep you away...'

true it may seems... Its one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Thank God for giving me such a day and experience. I feel alive again ^.^

不懂

另外一个人独自在船上弹琴唱着。在江上缓缓的走着。欣赏着两岸的柳树，高山白云蓝天。偶尔小鸟儿停留在船上，不一会儿就离去了。一个人每天在岸边看着另外一个人。和他唱着同一曲。可是，一个人不懂另外一个人。若懂，另外一个人就不会寂寞了。

Analysis Paralysis

I like to analyse things and humans. I like to look at their gestures, behaviours etc. and analyse it. From certain gestures, behaviours, tone of speech and ways of speech, you can know what is in their mind or what are they feeling or their occupation, origins etc. It is very fun though :P It helps me a lot in daily life. However, it also brings harm to me.

Having said that, a friend introduced this term to me, Analysis Paralysis. It is a syndrome that shows too much of analysis will lead to uncertainties and afraid to accept or make decisions. Sometimes I do feel so. I believe in horoscopes. And because I analyse very much about human behaviour ( ppl around me ), I tend to agree to most of the personalities for each horoscopes. Of course, there are exceptions.

So, when I get to know new people or talk with them, I tend to 'analyse' their speech / gesture. I guess most people do so too. Then till certain stage, I would ask their horoscope or find it out myself through ways :P then I would go ' No Wonder ! ' or ' Damn! ' There are certain horoscopes which I need to beware of, not to say get away from them. Just be caution. There are exceptional cases though. And of course, those horoscopes that match me very well, Leos, Saggitauras, Aries and Libras. I do not know if I have set such mindset unconsciously, but I always find that people with such horoscopes tend to get along pretty well with me.

Once in a while, someone with such horoscopes will pop into my life and amazed me. But then, I tend to have this analysis paralysis syndrome. My friends always say ' Go! Take action and get to know people before its too late ! ' , but I always hold back. I always think, How could such a great Piece of Art pop into my life? I am no match for this. I am just nobody...... *negative thoughts* Haiz.... Or sometimes I might scared people away ! lol...

出瞅

其实忙碌的生活里，有个傻乎乎的朋友也是不错的！至少能帮你减压！她总说人总有失宜态的时候。对！可是你的次数也未免太多了吧？！

她不是擅长说笑话，而是出瞅。还记得她在餐厅的时候对侍应说“1 Hot Iced Lemon Tea and 1 Cold Iced Lemon Tea! ” 当时那侍应愣了一下......我立刻说道“你叫什么？要的是1 Hot Lemon Tea and 1 Iced Lemon Tea吧？！” 说完了，我笑得我肚子又痛，眼泪都要出来了！看到你那很想找个洞钻进去的样子，我更是忍不住大笑了起来！

对不起啦！这样笑你！可是你想下，如果没有你整天作出这些事情惹我们笑，我们的压力和烦恼很早就逼疯我们了！哈哈哈哈哈哈......我也时常热你笑吧？！

其实多笑几下，你会觉得更开心！像你叫我的那样，时常无端端就一个人在那边傻笑!你说要赶快嫁人，我却很担心你做人娘和老婆会怎样的！拭目以待哦！

付出

在爱情的世界里，并没有在乎付出的多少。付出的多少不能拿来计算和衡量。如果两个人在一起，在意彼此的付出多少，这并不是那单纯的爱。爱的意义也没有了......　

火花

有些人在你身边刚开始出现的时候，你会眼睛一亮，然后你会觉得就好像火花一样灿烂，但当你冷静之后，你会觉得这只是人生中小小的点缀。

这些人就好像路灯一样，当你走在这路上时，一盏一盏的亮起来，再暗淡下去。最重要的是最后你要去的那个重点。那个重点是什么？是谁？是哪里？只有靠着你的真心才能知道。

当这些火花出现时，如果你犹豫不决，意志不够坚定，时间久了，真正爱你的人会当个坏人，帮你做选择，离开你。他不是不爱你了，而是不想看到你伤心烦恼，做一个你不能做的决定。这种爱是很伟大的，也需要很大的勇气。有多少人可以做到呢？这并不代表留下来陪着你，想要和你在一起的那个人不够爱你。见仁见智。唉！问世间情为何物？

Random

时常有人说，‘成熟点吧！不要再那么幼稚了！’，‘别再那么天真单纯了！’......

以前我总会反驳，可是现在我只对他们笑了笑。每个人的人生都不一样，若我要跟着你们所说的做，我能跟得了多少？最后的我会开心吗？我要活出自己的人生......

每一样东西，有他的利与弊。同样的东西，它可以是好处，也可以同时是他的坏处。拿‘天真和单纯’来看。一个人天真单纯总会吃亏，让别人有机可乘，相反的一个人天真单纯会活得比较开心简单。每件事往往是要你怎么去看待而已......

成熟与否，每个人的程度都不一样。在每一方面也不一样。在还没有完全认识和了解一个人前，不要那么快断定他是否成熟。在不一样的状况，对不一样的人，处理不一样的事情，在不同的方面，都会有着不一样的成熟度。例如，我可能在爱情的处理上比较幼稚，在工作上处理事情反而比较成熟，我是成熟还是幼稚呢？你有认真的，用心的和我相处才作出这样的断定吗？

有些事情让他神秘兮兮的会更好。争辩下去也不会有结果。笑一笑，忍一时风平浪静，退一步海阔天空。

以前现在

以前总会
依赖着你，
去哪里，做什么都跟你在一起，
只对你撒娇，
只在你怀里哭，
记住你的每一个细节，
开心和伤心都第一个与你分享......

现在的我
学会了自立，不再依赖，
去哪里，做什么都习惯了一个人，
渐渐忘了怎么撒娇，
渐渐忘了什么是痛，
渐渐忘了怎么哭，
只能躲起来一个人哭，
还记得你的每一个细节，
开心和伤心总一个人的傻笑感叹......

逞强...

在爱情的路上遇到了挫败，有些人选择了逞强去面对一切。有些人装着没事，若无其事的过着日常生活，嘻嘻哈哈的谈笑着，心里却在留着血，他永远不会给你看见他伤怀和失落的那一面。静下来的他，会感觉寂寞悲伤。有时候会看见他一脸犹豫得看着一些东西发呆。有些人的逞强，把他变得更加强势。他不会让人觉得他弱小，胆怯和无能。总会装成一切事情都能的超人！

逞强的过程中，这些人每一刻都在学习如何把自己变得更强大，更勇敢，更有能力。有些东西不是只有天生的，靠后天的努力也是可以拥有的。勇气不是天生的，而是每天一点一滴的累积而来的。

到底一个人逞强是为了什么？有些人为了维持一段爱情，有些人为了生活在这弱肉强食的社会里，有些人则为了不让身边的人担心，有些人却为了不想要被别人看成弱小，胆怯和无能。你呢？为了什么而逞强？